The fact is, many years from now when your children are grown up, they will remember very few of the things you gave them. The gifts they will remember will be ones that cost no money at all. I have a vague recollection of gifts I received from my parents as a child, even though many were quite nice. How about you? I remember a doll house, a set of puppets, a pogo stick... But the truth is, the best gifts my parents gave me were ones no amount of money could buy. These gifts were ones that helped me develop into a capable adult. What greater good could you gift your own children?
So may I suggest these few simple gifts for your children this holiday season?
Your Time- Families in our culture tend to have very busy schedules, leaving little quality time to spend with each other. During your holiday break take the time to do nothing and ironically you will be doing everything your kids long for. Just hang out, ride bikes, talk, cook a meal, read a book together, laugh... Children these days are hungry for the adults in their lives to take a genuine interest in them. One of my best memories from last Christmas was a long conversation at the kitchen table with our teen daughter Samantha about her dreams to be a doctor. Ask the right questions, listen attentively, and you’ll learn essential things that will help you guide your children to greater success in school and life.
Your Support- Childhood can be a time full of uncertainties; for few things are in children’s control. However, this does not mean that kids must be at the mercy of their unlucky circumstances. Research on resiliency tells us that the children, who thrive, despite overwhelming challenges, are the ones who have strong family support systems. Parents can support their children by taking an interest in their lives, volunteering at their schools, helping with homework, meeting with their teachers, showing up for school events, etc. When children know their families “have their backs,” they are more likely to take risks and try activities that will help them evolve into confident and capable individuals.
Your Experience- Your own life’s journey has taught you many valuable lessons that you can pass on to your children. But you’ll do well to avoid “preaching” to your children. Children are more likely to listen to advice when you focus on telling stories about what YOU learned from your experiences, both good and bad. History does not have to repeat itself. Researchers refer to this as “breaking a negative cycle”. I don’t know of a parent who does not wish for their children to do better in life than they did. You can assure a better life for your children by giving them the benefit of your time, support, and experience. These are the kinds of gifts that make a difference-- this holiday and every day!
Wishing Schools and the Families They Serve the Very Best of Holidays!
Angela
